Dear Mr Andrews

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She guides us through sugar dates, from kinky dinners to hotel rooms, while embarking on her personal journey of self-discovery and the unwavering realisation of "how much loneliness is in the world. Since Australian author Holly Hill published her bestselling memoir Sugarbabe in 2008, about placing an ad to find an older benefactor offering a “generous weekly allowance”, sugar babes and daddies have infiltrated mainstream parlance. I felt lightly exploited, or at least confused at how I'd ended up giving out sexual favours, on weekdays, to married men for free. The way that the sugar platforms market themselves is not as prostitution or sex work, they're saying it's just a sensible lifestyle choice for women and it’s targeted at those who want to improve their lives by ‘dating up’.

And terms like “high-value dating” and “hypergamy” have had hundreds of millions of views on TikTok, detailing tactics for women to meet “high-value” men – meaning, those with money. There are all these codified things like ‘I don’t want a professional’, which means they don’t want you to be a sex worker, they just want to pay you for sex,” she says. The stigma of being a John doesn’t get talked about as much as the stigma of being a sex worker, but the idea of being a John is seen as desperate and they like to think of themselves as people that can access young hot pussy because of their wealth and status. Written in swift, clear-eyed prose, Latham's wry, insightful narrator is an erotic ethnographer who has managed to convince this late-born Boomer that if you can't be honest, at least be true.You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. With her self-deprecating humor Lotte makes it funny and at times sad, we understand it, it’s more human, compassionate. They say ‘stop messing around with time wasters and start getting on with a man that can help you become something‘.

The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. Meet a sugar baby and her many daddies up close, in a saga told to our Mr Andrews, Lotte Latham’s confessor, her muse. Sugar dating, which involves an older wealthier ‘daddy’ financially supporting a ‘baby’, was not as blatantly transactional as escorting and, Lotte felt, offered a veil of plausible deniability. Whereas if you're an escort you can say ‘I'm a professional sex worker I would only ever have protected sex’.Sometimes, exchanges come in the form of expensive goods: a laptop, a cash bailout, or being taken on an exotic holiday. A lot of the time sugar daddies don’t think they want a professional sex worker because of the negative connotations and because they don't want to identify as a John. Latham’s Tracey Emin-like drawings are scattered throughout, but Latham herself is a blank canvas, parachuting us into different engagements across Europe without the tethers of backstory. In an absolute act of submission this playful, hilarious, candid book dares to lay things bare for our entertainment.

Lotte deleted all her sugar baby accounts and took up sex work to support her freelancing activities in the creative industries. She organises with Hookers Against Hardship, a grassroots campaign of sex worker-led organisations, aiming to raise awareness of the specific experiences of sex workers during, and because of, the cost-of-living crisis. Each chapter unwraps relatable confessions about the nuanced motivations behind dating, love, work, and sex and where they stick together under capitalism and misogyny.The surge of interest since Latham first tried sugar dating in 2015 means the scene has reached saturation point. Hotjar sets this cookie to know whether a user is included in the data sampling defined by the site's pageview limit.

The _ga cookie, installed by Google Analytics, calculates visitor, session and campaign data and also keeps track of site usage for the site's analytics report. Although Lotte chose to become a sugar baby because she wanted to experiment with the idea of sex work she noticed a lot of other people didn’t see it that way. I felt lightly exploited, or at least confused at how I’d ended up giving out sexual favours, on weekdays, to married men for free.She felt maternal toward these women offering to be their point of contact to stay safe and reassuring them not to do anything they didn’t want to. But if you get caught with some guy paying your rent, it can be passed off as savvy or even “high-value dating”. I got into it because if I got found out on a date with an older guy it's not something I would get in trouble for, whereas if somebody found me charging by the hour I would,” she told MyLondon in an exclusive interview.