My Dominant Lesbian Girlfriend: Lesbian Romance and Domination

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If you’re serious about becoming a Dom, you might want to invest in some tools to help you better transform into your role, deliver rewards, and dish out punishments. One of the main reasons guys enjoy being Doms is that it lets them be more selfish in the bedroom. They get to dictate what happens, and a lot of guys find that power thrilling. To find out if you’re one of them, let’s try a little thought experiment. Consent is the Golden Rule when it comes to being a Dom. That should go without saying, but it’s important to emphasize it here as D/s sex tends to involve more ‘ blurred lines’ than vanilla sex. Your partner still needs to feel secure in his/her everyday life, so there are going to be limits to how far you can take things. 5. Choose Your Preferred Terminology But! While it’s true that lesbians have less frequent sex than their straight counterparts, lesbian sex lasts far longer:Now that you know how to be a dom, let’s talk about why millions of men and women around the world fantasize about Dom/sub sex. What is it that makes dominance and submission so appealing? Well… He Gets to Be Selfish Researchers found that heterosexual women reported orgasming just 61.6 percent of the time, and bisexual women following close behind with 58 percent. Lesbians, however, reported coming 74.7 percent of the sexytime. Chiaramonte explains that the paddles, crops, and ropes are about deepening the bond between the Dom and their sub. "A Dom may consensually practice bondage with their submissive to deepen their power practice," she explains. "Bondage in this scenario can be used as a punishment, a reward, or a sensory experience to show who's boss in a safe way."

If none of those titles make you feel comfortable, you can forgo any kind of honorific. Some Doms just like to be referred to by their names, or perhaps by Mr. [Surname]. That’s totally fine too — whatever floats your boat! 6. Learn the Ropes If you know what kind of sub your partner is, it’ll be easier to suggest scenes that they’re likely to enjoy and better play your part. 4. Maintain Your Role Outside of the Bedroom More information is needed at all levels—government, collegiate, and otherwise. All the experts we spoke to point to an overall dearth of research on intimate partner violence in queer female communities as the biggest obstacle in developing more accessible resources for survivors. As we mentioned earlier, when explaining the concept of ‘scenes,’ Dom-sub relationships often extend outside of the bedroom.Understanding what the Dom/sub dynamic is, how it functions, and how to negotiate around it in your own relationship(s) is key to creating the kinky sex life of your dreams. It is the base layer. It is the fundamental configuration of role play. I also love the way Sebastián chose to shoot it. It was storyboarded. All the wetness, the spitting in the mouth, the pubic hair, the vaginas, but also leaving some of it to the audience to imagine. Where is the other woman’s mouth, where are her fingers? It was important for him to focus on our faces to really capture that desire. There’s something very spiritual about their sex. I’m really proud of it." Our projects include movies, books, classes, podcasts, and NFT art collections, as well as physical meeting spaces such as Cathexis House and the Temple of the Dark Goddess, and their virtual counterparts being built in the metaverse for our growing online community. We are also working in collaboration with related projects like a FemDom museum and archive that is the repository of historical FemDom publications and artifacts. S&M is about inflicting and taking pain for pleasure, whereas D/s is about power exchanges that don’t necessarily have to be physical. Some Doms might enjoy elements of S&M and like to inflict pain on a willing sub partner, but others might not. BDSM play allows us to temporarily indulge all our naughtiest fantasies and break free of these limitations. The idea of doing something that is in some way wrong, morally or otherwise, is utterly thrilling. Power Dynamics are Exciting