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Debra Fine was once a shy engineer who kept mostly to herself and because of this, was passed up for a promotion to someone who was more peesonable. She later on opted to become a stay-at-home mom to take care of her 2 kids. Her husband filed for divorce and she found herself jobless with 2 mouths to feed. A great book for those who want to become a skilled conversationalist. No matter how good you think you are at small talks, there are rooms for improvement. Although many good conversationalists may perceive those lines as ordinary and basic tips, they are eye-opening to me. The book includes handy cheat sheets with prepared conversational lines that can be applied right away. In addition, Debra does a wonderful job in describing psychological processes of those who fear public events and make mistakes in having a small talk with other strangers. I know she is right, because I used to find myself in such situations *laugh shamelessly* Luận điểm nên đưa ra trước rồi đến Luận chứng, điều đó mang lại cảm giác tin tưởng cũng như để người nghe dễ nắm bắt vấn đề. In this bestselling guide to social success, communication expert Debra Fine reveals the techniques and strategies anyone can use to make small talk in any situation.
Small talk is the Icebreaker that clears the way for more intimate conversation, laying the foundation for a stronger relationship.
Looking for the perfect gift for anyone on your list? Look no further. The Fine Art of Small Talk covers everything from icebreakers to exit lines, remembering names, mastering introductions, building businessnetworking skills, getting dates, making friends or landing jobs and the interview process, this book is guaranteed to improve conversational skills, mingling ability, and networking techniques. Plato said "Necessity is the mother of invention", and so she had to reinvent herself. So she had to learn the Art of Small Talk... And master it, she did.
There is something else that changes when you learn the fine art of small talk and that is, you bring in more job prospects into your life. If you look at the number of people who have mastered the skills taught in this book, they are the ones you meet at these social functions who show a genuine interest in what you have to say but not only that they make your stories and experiences something they can relate to that makes you want to talk with that person more. There is no secret in what they are doing to you, they have simply learned the art of active listening and relating. This book aims to teach you how to engage any individual in a meaningful conversation. It will also show you how to resuscitate a dying conversation and transition into new topics. It will share techniques to make you feel more at ease at networking events, parties and receptions. You can then use small talk to develop business friendships and be able to step out of a conversation with grace. Does striking up a conversation with a stranger make your stomach do flip-flops? Do you spend time hiding out in the bathroom at social gatherings? Do you dread the very thought of networking? Is scrolling your phone a crutch to avoid interacting?
The last few chapters were confusing (I didn’t DNF, it was so short I had to finish. And I wanted to see what other hilarious open liners the author gave). One was on being single and mingling. It felt very out of place in a book on small talk in a professional setting. The author jumps into rants on dating, and how to navigate the scene. It had me laughing once again at the horrendous advice, one of them being “leave your phone in your car”. Yeah…don’t do that. Especially on a first date. I think what the author was trying to say was “don’t look at your phone while on a date”. Not “throw away your only lifeline to the outside world if the date goes bad”.
Start thinking of strangers as people who can bring new dimensions to your life, not as persons to be feared.” Hello, my name is Heidi and I am bad at small talk. It's not that I don't have things to say — I can think of plenty of things to say. The things just don't make it out of my mouth. Actually, I have a very shy friend, one of the librarians I worked with, who swore by this technique of finding a person sitting by themselves. She did extremely well at parties by finding the quietest person in the room and starting a conversation with them. Considering these facts, I started this book with the hope that maybe, or, just maybe I can learn something I am terribly bad yet and Improve that part. Honestly, I am skeptical about everything that this buy 'tried' to teach me. I am going to keep in mind some of the effective learnings but I will know their impact whenever I will found myself in any social event. The actual suggested talking points are more stilted and awkward than anything you could think up yourself and if you didn't already know which subjects to avoid (politics, religion) you've got bigger social problems than this book can fix. However, the author manages to make a few good points and reminded me of a few things I hadn't perhaps taken seriously enough. (Such as pointing out that shyness can be misconstrued as rudeness if you seem to be avoiding conversation and that sometimes taking the aggressive position of initiating the conversation and asking the questions can be a shy person's best defense against being cornered.)I particularly liked the chapter on "The Graceful Exit." The importance and techniques of properly ending a conversation are not something that I've read about before.
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