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Speak to an accredited and experienced therapist to help you stop being an overachiever. You may want to try speaking to one via BetterHelp.com for quality care at its most convenient. 1. You have problems with anxiety.

You may work hard, long hours at work to provide for your children, not because you want them to be happy, but because you are afraid of being a bad parent. The key to making the change is to understand why you feel that you need to overachieve in the first place. If they failed, then maybe they didn’t try hard enough, work hard enough, do everything that was within their power to succeed. Maybe they were lazy!

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An overachiever is looking to assure themselves that they are good or worthy. They do that by accomplishing things. The overachiever is continuously looking forward to potential problems and projects that are coming their way. That might be working themselves to the bone at work. It might be overcompensating in relationships because they feel they do not deserve the love they are receiving unless they can somehow ‘repay’ their partner. 3. You have a difficult time accepting failure. Alas, there are downsides to having an overachiever personality. Not least that the high standard you work to and the success you achieve often comes through ‘excess’ effort.

You’ll never do all of your work, art, or love perfectly. You’ll never perfectly accomplish everything that you want to accomplish. It’s a lie that keeps you from meaningfully achieving. You’ve already taken the first step just by searching for and reading this article. The worst thing you can do right now is nothing. The best thing is to speak to a therapist. The next best thing is to implement everything you’ve learned in this article by yourself. The choice is yours. The authentic you is not perfect and will not always achieve. The authentic you will get things wrong from time to time and may be a little bit weird. The relationships that crop up from being honest and authentic will be far deeper and more genuine than the superficial ones you’ve developed out of playing to others’ expectations.The need for perfection often comes from dark, painful places. But you’re not perfect. No one is. It’s impossible to be. The need to overachieve is often rooted in anxiety and the need to maintain control over everything within reach. The more control the overachiever can exert over those things, the less their anxiety troubles them. 2. You have low self-esteem and tie your worth to your achievements. An overachiever may associate their achievements with their sense of self-worth. They may feel like they aren’t good enough if they aren’t earning whatever they’re receiving, even if it’s not relevant. That may be tied to something like a previous abusive relationship, an abusive upbringing, or other unresolved issues related to your sense of self-worth and well-being. You may very well need to explore that angle with a certified mental health therapist to better unravel your story.

You may not mean to do it, but you may find yourself looking at other people through the lens of their successes and failures.Too many people try to muddle through and do their best to overcome issues that they never really get to grips with. If it’s at all possible in your circumstances, therapy is 100% the best way forward. Success is exciting. It’s fun, and it feels good. But the overachiever does not necessarily view success as something to celebrate. But by being authentic and honest about your struggles instead of covering them up or avoiding failure, you create a rich opportunity to meaningfully connect with other people.