Why Did You Stay?: The instant Sunday Times bestseller: A memoir about self-worth

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But these breadcrumbs, instead of the whole loaf, can often lay the groundwork for a trauma bond, or the feeling of being unable to leave someone who hurts you.

Combined with compelling accounts of Humphries’ cognitive dissonance in the face of a toxic dynamic (“We’re just fiery, we’re Cathy and Heathcliff, Burton and Taylor, Sid and Nancy”), the memoir builds an appropriately complex picture of a complex relationship – one in which no one gets off scot-free, not even the author herself. “This isn’t a story about how a monster corrupted a princess,” writes Humphries. “It’s about how a relationship began to change as a result of two people’s sense of self-worth, and I have empathy for both parties.” It’s important to have clear examples of how your role has evolved over time, and how you have managed an increasing level of responsibility over the years. Highlight how you have been promoted, invited to complete secondments or switched departments or locations. Report increases in the size of your team, and new projects you are / were involved in. It’s important to show how your career trajectory has continued to move upwards. 2. You’ve added value Now that you’re feeling a little loved-up and relaxed with your qualms somewhat quashed, it’s time to get realistic. The thing is, the jobs market is so competitive these days that you might be the perfect fit for a role, but you’ll never even come close to having the opportunity to prove it. Why? Hiring managers and recruiters are inundated with applications for every open role they have, which means they have to go through a ruthless weeding process to arrive at a high-quality shortlist. And yes, there will be casualties. A funny, brave and honest book that will change lives. I have not stopped talking about it' THE TIMES

Jim Broadbent was a privilege to watch in action. David Harewood was electric. It was a fizzy environment to work in. Use statistics to show the value you have added to your company over time. Whether it’s increases in revenue or profitability, or major changes / transformations you’ve made. Bring to life how you have helped better the business. 3. You have great loyalty to your company What makes you happy when you’re not writing or acting? You write that you like “dancing around to gay pop”…

A memoir every woman should read ... a frank, funny and sometimes confronting deep dive into why so many women mistake controlling relationships with toxic men as what they think love should be— Red Magazine A funny, brave and honest book that will change lives. I have not stopped talking about it— The Times So funny and heart-breaking. So stunningly written. For any woman who has been asked ‘why did you stay?’, Rebecca Humphries’ book is a hilarious and brilliant read’ SUSAN WOKOMAWhen you are one of a hundred applicants with similar skill sets, factors like the length of time you’ve spent in your job becomes important. In the same way that serial job-hoppers will have to explain why they move between jobs frequently, those who’ve stayed in one job for many years will also have some explaining to do. Is the old norm the new negative? Fierce. Game-changing. Urgently necessary. Brilliant, brilliant and did I say brilliant?’ EMMA THOMPSON