Calm Parents, Happy Kids: The Secrets of Stress-free Parenting

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I see "Unconditional Parenting" as being more of a tool to develop one's overall parenting philosophy, with some examples and a few concrete instructions. It gave me the impression that if I didn't do exactly as instructed in the book then you are wrong and are damaging your child. You’re about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way. Not just that children who behave badly get punished more, but that children who get punished more will behave badly more often over time. But even more invaluable was that reading this book transformed how I think of my child's behavior, which in turn has helped me parent in a more compassionate and positive manner.

It isn't that obvious in this book, but I would doubt many well regarded psychologists hold this author in high regard. plus, having the examples of what to say read aloud was a world apart from reading them on the page.It also gives many examples about why you shouldn't punish and turn things into playfulness to match underlying needs (don't get me started on how need fulfillment doesn't align with her other claims that kids are just trying to learn boundaries). The difficulty, of course, is in how each of these things is to be accomplished—because those little fuckers are very very very frustrating at times. I do use consequences from time to time, but these aren’t the basis for getting my children to be compliant anymore! In reality, she cites some very controversial and non-replicated studies and their interpretations as if they're fact.

This book has already changed my life, I have become a more understanding parent and calmer than I’ve ever been. This final section is the longest and focuses on the three main ways you interact with your children: emotion coaching, loving guidance, and supporting mastery. This book is a practical guide on how to give our kids roots (secure attachment and unconditional love) and wings (socio-emotional and life skills to thrive in life). Therefore, in most misbehaviour, we see signals that our child needs help with processing big feelings. And if they don’t get this affirmation from parents, they become preoccupied with getting it from peers (and the results might be ugly).com, where you can find a lot of the same information that you find in this book; however, the book puts everything together in a concise and organized format.

It reads quickly, has very specific phrasing for communication issues, and supports the idea of your child as a human being in development whose needs vary widely from those of his/her parents.I would thoroughly recommend this book to any parent who would like to stay calmer in those very testing moments. Laura has given parents the gift of learning how their parenting can evolve alongside their children's growth and development. Children need to feel deeply connected to their parents or they don’t feel entirely safe, and their brains don’t work well to regulate their emotions and follow parental guidance.

It begins by discussing healthy attachment, the necessity of quality AND quantity time, and how to manage the busyness of everyday life while connecting deeply. We then get “ten rules” for the eidos zoe to “raise terrific kids” (32), which includes the curious notion that one should “excavate” the reasons for anger, an archaeology of trauma. I love the list of what children learn when parents allow the child's feelings and respond with empathy!There's a lot of this sort of flowery language and it doesn't appeal to me as a reader or as a parent looking for help in the day-to-day struggle of raising children. I have also purchased the authors 2nd book 'Peaceful Parenting, Happy Siblings' which is just as good. Thereafter the text develops, in picayune detail, rules for interacting with kids of various ages in different circumstances, all with the goal of instilling the regula in the kids such that they are self-managing.